“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.”
Welcome to Mining for Joy in the Deep River of Grief
If you’ve found me here in this sacred space that I hold for those who have experienced a deep loss, I open my arms to you and say,
“Please, come, enter with an open and wounded heart. We are united in this space of love, heartache, and healing.”
When I lost my brother, Rocky, on Valentine’s Day in 2014, I stumbled over a cliff and felt myself freefalling into the depths of an unending river, pulled and sucked under by Class VI rapids, which should be left to Olympic paddlers. Yet, that’s exactly where I found myself, a novice attempting to survive the harrowing navigation through the violent white waters, without a paddle, without a lifeboat, without a raft, and without any hope that I’d survive the aftermath.
But here’s a tiny secret I’d like you to tuck away in the space your loved one has left behind, I made it, and you can and will, too. I promise.
Allow me to offer you a lifeboat to help you navigate through the Class VI rapids rushing through your heart. Together, we’ll make it to the other side.
In my book, Rock On: Mining for Joy in the Deep River of Sibling Grief, I share my own grief journey and offer you hope and inspiration from other siblings who survived the Class VI rapids. Under my resource page, I’ve listed numerous helpful books on grief and loss.
Mining for Joy Course: I created the Mining for Joy Course for those siblings who truly feel as I did, that you may drown without something to cling to, or something tangible to hang onto. If this speaks to you, please check out the course in the menu.
Hang around a while and if you wish to contact me to ask a question, share a story or whatever is on your mind, please go to my contact page.
With love and deep gratitude,